postheadericon Broken Relationships – How to Let Go of the Sadness and Grief

In this article I hope to not only counter this idea I hope to help you actually begin to let some of these unhelpful feelings go.

First let me start by discussing why they are unhelpful. Well that’s fairly straight forward.

So is any of that pleasant? Absolutely not! In fact if you look at what those feelings are doing to your life energy I think you’ll recognize that it is being quickly zapped from within your body. Well this may, or may not surprise you but that means the feelings are killing you!

So does that help build a desire in you to try and clear them out and as soon as possible? Hopefully yes.

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Let’s start with the sadness itself.

What is the benefit to you of having those feelings of sadness living inside you?

Well they’re supposed to tell you that all is not right with this situation, so that,

You can get motivated to do something to rectify it, so that,

You can rectify it, so that,

All will be well, so that,

I call this the Summary Statement.

Now let’s look at what the feelings of sadness actually do to you.

Go inside and reconnect to the feeling itself, if you’re not already there and notice what it is doing to you right now. You may notice some or all of the following: feeling deflated and/or depleted, feeling weighed down, feeling hurt, feeling heaviness in the heart, perhaps feeling hopeless, feeling regret, feeling empty, and so on.

So is this not a toxic experience? Indeed it is because that empty feeling relates to the experience of feeling empty of Life Energy or the will to keep on going. In other words it is trying to seduce you into giving up. That’s equivalent to it trying to kill you is it not?

So if you see that this is a toxic experience now I ask you to re-read the Summary Statement above.

You will find that this statement and the experience (which we just discussed) you get from the sadness are opposites.

So which is the truth for you?

Now would you like to clear that false statement from your mind, body and life?

Would you also like to clear the sadness from your life?

If so then as if you are speaking from your heart assert that you would like each of these cleared one at a time.

Finally, contemplate how you would like to feel and be from this point on as you move forward in your life.

Write this all down and when you have a clear picture of it see and feel yourself there and notice how you feel inside. If you like this new found state of being then simply assert to yourself via your heart that this is where you’d rather be from now on.

You should be feeling a measure of relief as a result of this short journey. If you’d like to build on this experience which I call the Mind Resonance Process®(MRP) kindly visit the web site below where you can request a free MRP coaching consultation.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

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3 Responses to “Broken Relationships – How to Let Go of the Sadness and Grief”

  • Marlon P:

    am going through divorce, but he is far away in other country he says he will divorce me but he didnot i dont know what to do to leave him he is tourturing me leaving me like he never know me before ……

  • Sahil:

    so i have been single for about 3 months now, most people may think its not enough time to get over someone but my ex girlfriend says and seems she is completely over me.
    recently iv just let her get on with it and stopped talking to her as i get dry answers or i get ignored. so i stopped speaking for a month or two and felt so lonely without her and the only person i most feel comfortable with is her, we have been through so much together that i cant seem to get over like we should have had a baby but was miscarried which caused alot of grief and sadness. anyway i spoke with her today as im feeling really really down and depressed and i told her how iv been feeling but she doesnt seem interested. She was saying all this horrible stuff like, i was never happy, and that she is with someone alot better and that it wouldnt bother her if i wasnt here anymore. she knows how low i have been feeling so why is she kicking me whilst im down?
    yea iv made a few mistakes in the relationships (not cheating or anything) but apart from that i treated her like a princess. she was and still is my princess but it hurts soo much more hearing that from her own words. iv tried meeting other girls but seems no one is quite like her and just cant help to compare the two which is unfair for the other girl.
    i feel so alone and miserable day in day out, and had thoughts about just getting out of everyones lives for good.
    feel like such a freak but i dont know what to do anymore.

  • Paul M:

    I’m 17. It’s been 2 1/2 months since my break up, and I feel like this is the first time during our whole on-off relationship that I have started to fully let go. I have cleaned out my whole room, didn’t reply to him when he texted me a couple weeks ago, haven’t gone on myspace to see his profile for a week now, and got rid of everything that reminded me of him. He’s in 2 of my classes and I act like he doesn’t exist and I continue being my happy normal confident self in front of him, and even when he’s not there. Are these good signs that I’m letting go? What’s the next step?

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