postheadericon Turnaround Time

Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. It’s a time of new beginnings, of letting go of the old and generating the new. Many of my clients come in looking for a new way to see or do things, or a way to let go and refocus.

What kind of renewal do you want to generate in your own life?

• Are you feeling too caught up in things, and you want to let go a little, to learn to relax more?
• Is there a new goal you want to make happen in your life?
• Are you isolated and lonely, and want to generate more activity and more friends in your life?
• Do you have a relationship that needs a re-charge?
• Or are you happy and delighted with your life and the past year, and you just want to begin another that will be as good?

Just as the sun is making its turn in the heavens this season, try making a turn in your outlook:

If you’ve been holding on, struggling to make something work, try letting go a little. Take it less seriously, laugh a little more, breathe more deeply, and walk a little slower. You’ll be surprised to find out that things still get done. Let the returning light make your life a little brighter, a little easier, and a little less frantic.

If things are going great, and you’re really in a celebratory mood, this is the perfect season for that, too! Give thanks for your wonderful year, enumerate one by one all the blessings you received this year. Congratulate yourself, give yourself a big pat on the back, and throw yourself a party! Then, let it all go. Life is about change, and the traditional time of change is upon us. There’s a new year coming, a new start, a new day.

Life blesses us with this opportunity constantly. No matter how bad or good today is, like Little Orphan Annie says, tomorrow is brand new. We get another start. We can slow down, speed up, make changes, and do it over. There is nothing we can’t approach differently at the beginning of a new day. At this time of year, when the old year is ending, and the new about to begin, I like to remind myself of the opportunity this constant renewal brings.

I am grateful for this reminder, this yearly re-focus of my attention and dedication. Just as the world renews itself, no matter what wars, pollution, injustices and problems are going on, I have the opportunity to renew my self and my life; no matter what drama may be going on in it.

Author’s Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places?

When it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved.

However, just because someone is in love, it doesn’t mean that their relationship is the same as someone else’s. This is surely because love means different things to different people.

But while there will be differences, there is also going to be similarities. And some of these are going to include: being treated with respect; to have another listen to what they have to say and to be interested in what they do say; for them to generally be there when they need emotional or physical support and comfort and to experience trust and honesty.

These are just a few of what could be described as essential elements in a relationship and there are naturally going to be others. One might have a one thing or a few things that they must have, even though it might not be needed by another person.

As we are all different and have different needs and wants, this is to be expected. It is not something that one should feel bad about or try to deny.

Requirements

So when someone has these requirements, as mentioned above, they are not looking for perfection or anything out of the ordinary. And if one is prepared to give what they are looking to receive from another, then they are not looking for anything that they won’t give in return.

Whereas if one was looking to receive what they were not prepared to give, then there is going to be an imbalance. And this would not be ideal when it comes to attracting or even maintaining a relationship with someone who does have them.

To have these traits oneself can make it easier for one to attract and to maintain a relationship with another person. That is if their mind and body are in harmony and not in conflict.

Out Of Reach

Even though to be loved in this way is not too much to ask, for some people, it can feel as though they are asking for far too much. And that what they are asking for will never be met by anyone. It then doesn’t matter that they live on a planet that has billions of people; as it is always the same story.

The person might look different, but the experience and the outcome, ends up being the same. Their mind can then come to the conclusion that they are different to others and while other people can have a loving relationship, they can’t.

Reality

And if ones personal reality is always the same when it comes to the people they attract, then these conclusion and many others, are not much of a surprise. The external experiences and how ones feels and thinks on the inside are going to lead to frustration and pain.

Relationships

So this can include people who are in relationships and people who can never seem to get in one. But regardless of this, there will be similarities that each person can relate to.

When it comes to a relationship, it could be that one attracts and is attracted to people who are emotionally unavailable. They are physically there and yet they either, can’t or won’t offer anything else. It could be that one ends up with someone who is abusive in some way and they definitely can’t love one as they want to be loved.

And if one is not in a relationship, but has the desire to be in one, then they could be drawn to people who are unavailable. So perhaps this could be someone who is already in a relationship, travels the world or is not looking for anything at this time in their life.

Emotional Experience

What happens can be different or one could find that they constantly attract the same experience, but their emotional experience is likely to be the same; as are their thoughts and beliefs.

Emotionally one might end up feeling: anger, frustration and even rage. And if they were to go deeper or if these feelings were to subside, they could feel: rejected, abandoned, worthless, powerless and hopeless, amongst others.

Conflict

So on one side one has the desire to be around someone who can actually love them and yet, what keeps showing up is the complete opposite. It is clear that something is out of alignment.

This comes down to what ones ego mind, the brain just above their stomach, has associated as being safe. And what this brain has associated as safe can have nothing to do with what one consciously wants or what is healthy.

Attraction

It is this brain that will define what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life and not what is going on in their head. And these associations are usually formed when one was a child and this means that as an adult, one can have no recollection of what happened during these years.

If they were to get in touch with what took place, it might become clear as to why they are attracted to and attract the same people. While the mind forgets, the body doesn’t; the answers to why one attracts what they do into their life are likely to be found in the body and not the mind.

Childhood

So how ones caregivers treated them from when they were a baby and throughout their childhood years, will play a big part in what ones relationships are like with other adults.

And if one continually looks for love in all the wrong places, then it is likely that their caregivers were also unable to love them. Perhaps they were emotionally unavailable or abusive in some and were not able to give them the emotional nurturing that they desperately needed.

Consequences

And this would have had two consequences. On one side will be how it would have made one feel. Here one could have felt: abandoned, rejected, worthless, powerless and hopeless and even that they were going to die.

And on the other side would have been the associations that the ego mind formed around being brought up by someone who was either emotionally unavailable or abusive for instance.

So being emotionally distant from others can then end up being what feels comfortable at a deeper level; as to get close to another could cause one to be abandoned again or even harmed in some way.

Awareness

Years will have gone by and one will look different physically, but they could still feel the same as they did all those years ago. And while it is painful to not attract the right person, there is likely to be more pain if one did attract someone who was loving and available.

Not because a loving person would intentionally harm another, but because of what it would trigger from their past. These feelings will define how one behaves and how they interpret another person’s behaviour.

The emotional pain of being abandoned will need to be dealt with, as will the pain of another person getting close. These feelings will be trapped in one’s body, and as they are released, ones relationships will change.

This can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer who will allow one to get in touch with their feelings and gradually release them.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon Dr. Romance video: Do men have biological clocks?

1. Sense of Humor

Of all the characteristics that are essential for getting through life successfully, a sense of humor has to be in the top ten.  But, what kind of a sense of humor? 

If your date can make your laugh, and lift your spirits, that talent may help you through some future difficulties. 

2. Cares What You Think

A date who asks for and listens to your opinions and feelings, and better yet, who remembers what you say and builds on it later, and who responds with empathy, sincerity and caring, is someone you can communicate with and therefore, more likely to be able to form a partnership with you.

If you pay attention, you can quickly notice the difference between the <ital> appearance <ital> of caring and real caring.  If your relationship is successful, you’ll have years of talking to each other, so find someone who is interesting to talk to and also interested in talking with you.  Your date should be able to carry on an interesting discussion on a variety of topics, and at least show interest, even if the topic is not something he or she is familiar with.

3.  Has An Opinion, Too

A truly good conversationalist not only listens to your words and responds, but also has ideas and opinions.  Your date should not hesitate to disagree with you or to bring up new topics. 

4. Can Work Things out with You

Recent research shows that the single most important quality which determines whether a relationship can succeed is how well the couple solves problems.

5.  Accepts Who You Are

A popular book asserts that “Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus”, but I think it’s more that we’re all from different planets.  You and your date are unique, special and individual and need to be able to understand each other, and accept that you’ll perceive things very differently. 

Even when you and your date see things differently, you should be able to agree to disagree. 

Remember, the security and comfort in your relationship will come from where you and your partner are similar, and the excitement and growth in the relationship are generated from your differences. 

Different interests, opinions, attitudes and ideas will keep things fresh and alive between you. If your date does not become defensive or  threatened by your differences, you can be interesting to each other for a long time.

6. Openness: Discloses Self

8. Intelligence

9. Modesty, Humility, Ego (In Balance)

10.  Emotionally Mature

While it’s fun and charming to be able to be childlike when in a playful mood, it’s essential to be an adult whenever necessary.

A date who is responsible, self-regulating, emotionally responsive, motivated, and in control of his or her impulses, is capable of being a supportive, fully participating partner, no matter what joys and sorrows, successes and failures you may face in the course of a lifetime.

11. Healthy History of Relationships (Not Perfect, Just Normal)

Of course, if both of you are dating again, your relationship history will probably not be perfect.  What counts is whether your date has learned from the problems, confronted his or her own weaknesses and shortcomings, and grown as a result of the setbacks.

Remember, a smart date will be watching for the same characteristics in you.To do well in a relationship, learn to be the partner you would like to be. 

Author’s Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon ***When Dating for Marriage it’s Values, Values, Values!

Your values are what you treasure.  It’s what you hold dear.  When your values are not aligned with someone or something, you will feel discourse and out of sorts.  I can’t stress how important it is to have a list with a detailed description of your values so you can adjust your love radar connection in the right direction. 

  1.  First CLARIFY WHO would be a good match for you.  
    Once you have a detailed description list of your values written out, then you have to figure out which ones are your PERSONAL VALUES and which are your RELATIONSHIP VALUES.   Your RELATIONSHIP VALUES need to be aligned with your life partner and your PERSONAL VALUES need to be supported by your partner.
  2. Next FOCUS on WHERE to go to find people who share your core RELATIONSHIP VALUES. 
    You will be able to figure out where you are going to meet people who share your values?  You will find that you will connect with people because you share similar values.  For instance, if you have a value around giving back to your community, you may find singles’ volunteer opportunities so you can meet other single people who feel the same desire.  Also, it’s important to express your values in your online dating profile so you will attract the right people to your profile! Moreover, you can tell the connectors in your life WHO you are looking for based upon these RELATIONSHIP VALUES so they can easily think about who they know to introduce you to that would be a great match. 
  3. Last, your RELATIONSIP VALUES will SOLIDIFY your CONNECTION to your romantic partner.   
    By honoring your CORE RELATIONSHIP values, you have the glue that will keep you together during the ups and downs of a relationship.  When you share and support one another’s values, you both get one another and find that you have an appreciative, supportive, respectful and caring partner.  This will give you the best chance for your future happiness in your romantic love partnership.  

By disregarding your RELATIONSHIP VALUES you are missing the one thing that can make dating easier so you can determine who is a good fit, as well as, a way to kindly pass on those who don’t share your core VALUES. 

What criteria are you utilizing to evaluate a potential mate for continued dating? This curious dating coach would like to know!

Warmly,

Coach Amy

Author’s Bio: 

postheadericon Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour?

While relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship.

This might create the impression that they are therefore functional and healthy; especially if this brought to mind a child that is loved cared for by its parent. However, other than the fact that each person is not on the same level, it has no connection to parent–child relationship.

That is unless the parent-child relationship is dysfunctional and unhealthy. If this is the case, there are going to be many similarities. Ultimately, this relates to relationships where boundaries are nonexistent and each person’s emotional development has been stunted.

Consequences

What this then leads to are relationships where each person’s growth is sabotaged. One person’s behaviour is stopping another from growing and the other person is stopping another person form growing by putting up with their behaviour. And it is also possible for one to change between the two options. It can all depend on who they are with and how they feel.

So one person places their attention on taking care of another person’s needs and wants and ignores their own. Or one is in a position where they ignore the other person’s needs and wants and focus on their own.

What The Problem?

After looking at these dynamics, one might come to the conclusion that the first one is an example of how one should be and the second one is not. Focusing on others is an example of being selfless and having others focus on us is being selfish.

However, even though this is what is taking place on the surface, it doesn’t match up with what is going on at a deeper level. No matter what role one chooses to play, they are still focused on their own needs and wants.

Sabotage

And the reason each person’s growth is being sabotaged is because their behaviour is unhealthy. The person who focuses on being there for others is going to come across as capable and strong. But on the inside and they are probably unaware of this, they are going feel the complete opposite.

For the person who is used to having other people being there for them, they are going to come across as being incapable and weak. In this case, one is not out of touch with how they feel and is not wearing a mask like the other person.

Growth

In order for each person to grow, it will be important for them to let go of their need to be strong or to come across as a victim. The role that they play will be what is familiar and therefore what feels safe.

So it will be a gradual process of realising that it is safe for them to show their vulnerabilities or their strength. And that they no longer need to hide their true needs and wants.

Needs And Wants

It might appear as though the person who acts like a victim is comfortable with having needs and wants and the person who comes across as capable is not. But appearances are often deceiving; as they are both in the same position.

The person who acts like a victim is likely to have the outlook that they are only able to receive attention when they are suffering. And the person who acts strong is likely to have the outlook that other people’s needs are more important than their own.

Therefore, the roles they play are an indirect way for them to get their needs and wants met. But as they have to hide their true selves, it is not going to be possible for their true needs and wants to be fulfilled.

The Caretaker

And one of the roles that someone can play that will lead to a dysfunctional relationship is that of the caretaker. This is going to mean that one is there for others in ways that keep them stuck and in an infantile state.

Behaviour

When someone else has a problem it won’t be enough to just listen to them, one will want to try to fix their problem/s or to rescue them. And it won’t matter if this is asked for, as they may just do it anyway.

They will also believe that they know what is best for the other person. This is going to cause the other person to doubt themselves and they may end up becoming dependent on the caretaker. And although they are giving, there are going to be certain expectations attached.

What this comes down to is that they are unable to respect another person’s boundaries and personal reality. The people they attract or are attracted to are often going to be needy. But this doesn’t mean that they are able to accept the other people’s neediness; as they could judge others for being needy.

A Deeper Look

So even though they create the impression of being caring and of only wanting to help others, this is not the whole truth. Caretaking allows them to experience control; with this being the control of their own feelings.

This is likely to be someone who is out of touch with what is going on with them. And the kind of behaviour they are drawn to in others is going to reflect how they feel on the inside. The difference is that while the other person feels comfortable showing how they feel, they doesn’t feel comfortable showing this part of them.

To judge other people for being needy is then a natural consequence of being cut off from one’s own neediness. This is because it reminds them of what they are unable to acknowledge within themselves.

Childhood

And the reason one is not only out of touch with their neediness, but also needy, is typically the result of what happened during their childhood years. This would have been a time where ones needs were neglected and one would have been expected to take care of the needs of their caregiver/s.

Awareness

So in order for one to move beyond their caretaking behaviour and to feel comfortable with having needs, they will have to get in touch with their unmet childhood needs and grieve them. And to release any trapped emotions that have remained in their body since those early years. This process can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon First Date Advice for Men: 9 Tips to help your game

Tip #1 Know your Motive
Before going on the first date you should ask yourself few questions. Are you looking for a lifetime partner or a sexual relationship only? If you have a clear objective on what you want, you will be able to determine the effort that you need to put in place to achieve your objective. Going out without a clear motive is like an interviewer who calls people for an interview without a specific job in mind. That will be a complete waste of time.

Tip #2 Choose Appropriate Date Venue
Choose a location that is appropriate for a first date. You can take her for dinner at a quiet restaurant so you can have a good conversation (where you can hear each other) and then later to somewhere fun as this will give you a chance to get to know her better. Comedy clubs are a great place for a first date –as long as there are moments during the evening where you will have the chance to chat. Most importantly, you should never take your date to a movie on your first date. Staring at a movie screen for two/three hours is not good because you will hardly talk and you will not achieve anything at the end of it all.

Tip #4 Dress to Impress
No woman likes to walk beside a shabby looking man. Understand that your dress sense is crucial when making an impression as it says a lot about you. If you make no effort whatsoever, she may think it implies you are lazy. However if you make an effort, she will most likely be more attracted to you and know that you take pride in your appearance. You should wear smart clothes that are well maintained. Without an exception, smart, clean and well-kept clothing are non-negotiable!

Tip #5 Be Organized
When you ask a woman to go out on a date, she expects you to plan everything for the day/evening. It can be a total turn off for a woman when she meets you and then you stay stranded on the streets deciding where to go for the date. Plan in advance organizing a great location and be sure of the specific place where you intend to take her. If you will be doing something different that needs specific clothing, call her in advance so she comes prepared. No one wants to be wearing high heels and a short skirt only to realize later that you are taking her rock climbing!

Tip #6 Compliment Her
It is most likely she dressed her best and put some effort into her appearance for you, so you should offer her a compliment. Make sure that is comes across as genuine and avoid exaggerated compliments and praises as that can get quite overwhelming and uncomfortable on her part. “Beautiful or gorgeous” is better than “smoking hot!”

Tip #7 Act Like a Gentleman
Being a gentleman can go a long way. While gender roles have significantly shifted over time, there are far less men these days who open doors, order the wine, wait for women to get out of a lift first, etc which is always very much noticed and appreciated by women. In the unlikely event she does not like men with these gestures, try to look at her to see if she is comfortable and if she is not, do not continue to do this. Chances are she will absolutely love it.

Tip #8 Take Her Home
After the date, it is always good to drive her home. If you do not own a car, you can take a cab together just to make sure that she gets home safely. That way she will feel you are a responsible and caring guy while also increasing your chances of going on another date with her. After she gets home, you can offer to walk her to the door. If it feels comfortable and the date has gone well, you can give her a kiss. If not, a hug is also good. After all it is just a first date. Resist the urge to go up to her room if you can if you want to show her you respect her –that can always come later.

Author’s Bio: 

Bio: Catherine King is a part-time writer who enjoys using writing to challenge her own perspective as well as the beliefs of others. She likes getting to the core of issues and leaving no elephant in the room unaddressed. So you can converse with and learn from (and with) her or deny and debate her, she’ll most likely enjoy either approach.

postheadericon Dr. Romance Video: How to Decide Whether or Not to End Your Marriage

Consider these reasons to stay:

1. You still love each other. Maybe you’re irritated, frustrated or resentful, but bottom line, you’d be sad to lose your partner. Don’t give up. What’s wrong can probably be fixed. If you haven’t calmly told the truth about how you’re feeling, and it only comes out when you fight, then you haven’t created a chance to fix things and restore your loving feelings.

3. Your complaints are petty and juvenile. If you’re mad because you’re not getting enough attention or there’s no romance, or someone else looks better to you than your partner, you’re probably not being realistic or doing your part to fix things. Don’t be a baby. Grownups don’t keep complaining, whining and nagging – they figure out how to fix things.

Author’s Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon The Wedding Photographers Guide to having the Perfect Wedding Day

Is your special day just around the corner? If so, stress levels are probably high and you are feeling anxious about it. Though the perfect wedding requires a lot of preparation, you should learn how to relax and have a good time. Try the following checklist to get organised during your special day and to have a great time.

It may seem like you have all the time in the world, but once you start getting ready, you will find out that the time is certainly not enough. Come up with a preliminary plan and a time schedule to make sure you will be capable of dealing with everything.

2. Scissors!

Cutting tags off clothing items, doing minor modifications and removing labels all of these tasks will be impossible to complete if you dont have a pair of scissors.

3. Get in Your Dress Early Enough

Do you have a really complex dress that requires lacing or buttoning up? It may be a good idea to get dressed early enough. Otherwise, you risk running into wedding dress emergencies at the last possible minute.

4. Emergency Kit

A few basic items may come in handy during the final hours before the ceremony. The emergency kit should contain sewing materials, bobby pins, spare pair of pantyhose, rubber bands and plenty of drinking water.

5. Get Your Body Ready

Take socks off early enough to make sure there are no marks on your skin. The same applies to your bra, especially if you are going for a strapless wedding dress.

6. Delegate Tasks!

Though you want to be in charge, delegating tasks to somebody else will make the final hours of planning less hectic. Your parents, the best man and the maid of honour will all be there to assist you and make your wedding day special.

7. Have a Photo Shoot Plan

Knowing what kinds of photos you want and discussing these details with your wedding photographer in advance will result in wonderful pictures. Avoid taking too many shots with parents and guests because you will probably look bored and tired by the end of the session.

8. Hats?

Your wedding photographer will usually prefer for guests to come without hats to the ceremony. If you opt for this possibility, you will need to find the right storage place for such accessories.

9. Ceremony Timing

Give yourself enough time to mingle with guests and to have photo shoots between the start of the reception and the coming party.

10. Do You Want to have a Receiving Line?

This option will make it easier to talk to all of the guests. If you have many people coming to the wedding, however, it will demand a lot of time. Decide whether you want to make use of this possibility.

11. Who is Responsible for Meet and Greet?

Appoint someone to welcome the guests, to give them directions and to make sure that everybody has been seated before the ceremony starts.

12. Confetti Throwing

If this fun procedure is going to happen, make sure that it is organised in advance. Only a couple of people should be responsible for its execution.

13. Check the Weather Forecast

Is there any chance of rain? Check the weather forecast in advance and think of an emergency plan for such situations.

14. Keep Your Makeup on throughout the Day

Do you want to keep your beautiful lipstick on your lips all day long? If so, considering wetting the rim of the glass before taking a sip. This way, none of the lipstick will get on the glass.

Author’s Bio: 

Richard Galloway is an award-winning professional photographer and considered one of the best reportage wedding photographers in Surrey. Creating story telling photographs since 2007, he specialises in documentary (reportage) wedding photography.

Or just call for a chat about your special day: 01252 835 981

postheadericon Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend.

Last year, he disagreed with some advice I gave him.  He said I was a false friend, that proved that I didn’t care about him at all, and a lot of other accusations.  I let it go.

When he was diagnosed with cancer, and I was by his side all the time, encouraging him to eat
right and follow the treatment he wanted to abandon. I went  to his city so we could meet, but he didn’t give me a single call during four days I was there. He told me he had surgery but he never let me know in advance.

Dear Reader:

Thank you for reading my blog. 

Author’s Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional?

There are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently …