postheadericon When Your Relationship is Rocky, Look Right at Your Expectations

One of the best ways to think of a relationship on the rocks is to reflect on your expectations for your relationship. What are they? What is it that you really want from your partner? What could your partner do now that would — from your point of view — make the relationship work again? Make a …

postheadericon Divorce – Can it Be Avoided?

If two individuals are intent on trying one last time to make their relationship work then there is a way.

A relationship is just like a person. It stores within it the sum total of all the memories that make it up. After all when individuals talk about their relationship what do they talk about if it’s not what happened to them i.e. their history.

It is the same history that each partner uses against the other and against the relationship to justify why it is worth leaving.

Without such information one would be hard pressed to make a case for or against a relationship. This would present a clean slate from which to create something totally fresh, would it not?

Now I know that you’re probably thinking that this sounds a bit dubious at best. I would like to let you know that I have worked with individuals this way for over ten years with very promising results so please try to keep an open mind as you read on.

Now just a word of caution here first. Individuals who enter into a relationship always bring with them the history of their lives that preceded that relationship. This history includes other relationship experiences which are either helpful or not.

In order for a failing relationship to start afresh it also becomes necessary to address destructive relational patterns that already pre-existed in each individual.

When this happens history tends to repeat itself and in the process consumes an individual’s life leaving them sad, untrusting and cynical.

So in order to redeem a current failing relationship three things are necessary:

1. Two individuals in integrity who are committed to trying again.

2. The effective release of the negative memories of the current relationship from the minds/bodies of each individual.

3. The effective release of any negative relational patterns that each individual brought into the relationship at its inception.

Part 1 must come from the individuals. Here love is the key to integrity and commitment. If its there great. If not it becomes exceedingly more difficult to make this work.

Parts 2 and 3 can be addressed quickly and easily with a new process which helps individuals clear all traumatic memories that the couple hold within/between themselves.

It is just such memories that fuel negative feelings against the other and against the continuation of the relationship itself.

Such memories can be released in a way that helps restore the genuine love that the individuals had for each other initially.

What’s more it can facilitate the necessary emotional growth that such individuals needed before they even entered this relationship.

So what is being said here is that not only are they able to start afresh, they become more capable and mature individuals.

This makes the fresh experience more rewarding and the new relationship more resilient.

If you and your partner are going through a tough time and you feel inspired to experience what MRP can do for you kindly visit the web link below and consider arranging an introductory free coaching consultation

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Relationships: Is Looking Good Enough To Attract The Perfect Partner?

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When some people think about having a relationship, it is often their priority to find the perfect partner. And this can be someone who has qualities and features that are relatively easy to find and go on to include what could be seen by some as, impossible to find.

It could be that one has a list in their mind and is certain about what kind of person they want to be with. Another option is for one to have a list of things that they are looking for, with this being laid out on a piece of paper and not just a mental list.

This could be done in such a way that one has things that are non negotiable and goes on to include things that are not essential. There will be things that are a priority and other elements that can be overlooked.

A Match

And it is likely that what one wants their partner to have will be what they value and therefore what they also have themselves. Dov Baron says ‘if you want to find the one, you must become the one’.

So it is then vital that whatever one looks for in another is what they already have themselves or are close to having. To expect another to have what one doesn’t have is going to have the potential to cause problems.

Example

If one is looking for someone who is in good physical shape and they are not in the same position, the other person is probably going to experience conflict. It is likely that they would want to be with someone who is in good shape also.

Of course, one could start going to the gym through being with someone who is that way inclined, but it is an example of one looking to receive something they don’t yet have to give.

The Mirror

So based on this, one will need to be what they want to attract. It is often said that the people one attracts into their life is a reflection of who they are. And this includes what is consciously going on for them and what is going on at a deeper level.

What is going on at a conscious level is what one is going to be aware of and what is going on below that will be what they are unaware off. This is why one can be attracted to and attract people who are the complete opposite of what they want.

On The Surface

But when it comes to the modern day society, attention is generally given to what is seen and not to what is unseen. And so if one wants to attract the perfect partner into their life, then it is often said that one needs to simply ‘look’ the part.

From here, everything will simply fall into place. What is going on beyond ones physical appearances is rarely mentioned in the mainstream and so this could end up being ignored. And this is no surprise, because there is a lot of money to be made by getting people to focus solely on their appearances.

Celebrities

The media gives a lot of attention to people in the public eye who look good and have everything else going for them. However, what the media also shows are people who have relationship problems who look perfect.

In these cases, their looks are not making any difference. They are still having the same problems as people who are not classed as ‘attractive’. But even though this is true, people have been conditioned to believe that looks are the be and end all.

Options

And there are all kinds of things that one can do now to improve their appearance. Cosmetic surgery has created the opportunity for one to do so much more and to change what people in the past had to put up with for life.

But, one just needs to place their attention on the certain celebrities for a short time and even the people in their lives that are attractive to see that looking good is not enough.

A Deeper Look

So plenty of attention is given to what can be seen with one’s eyes and yet very little attention is given to what can’t be seen. And this is a massive oversight, because we don’t just attract people based on how we look, we also attract them based on what is going on within us.

And if one doesn’t feel ‘beautiful within’ then they are likely to attract people who reflect this inner disharmony. One might have become so cut off from what is going on with them, that when other people reflect it back to them it could feel as though they are being victimised.

What is going on within someone will be a combination of their beliefs, thoughts and emotions. These will come together to define who one attracts and is attracted to. And it won’t matter what is going on externally; as these elements will have the biggest say.

An Analogy

There are cakes that look amazing, with how they are decorated and what they are decorated with. But just because a cake looks good on the outside, it doesn’t mean that one is going to enjoy what is on the inside.

The outside will be what makes one eat the cake, but once they have gone through the icing, they will taste what is on the inside. At first they might be looking forward to eating the cake, but shortly after, they could experience a sense of regret.

Looks will make a difference at the beginning of a relationship, but once time has passed, it will be what is going on behind the looks that will appear. And just like the in the example above, no amount of icing will be able to cover up what is inside.

Awareness

One of the reasons people have relationships is to heal their history and so the more one deals with their past, the better their relationships will be. To deal with that is going internally, one can seek the assistance of a therapist, healer or a coach. Or engage in their own self study and read up on this area to increase their self awareness.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon Five Good Reasons Why You May Not Be Ready For Marriage

I Need To Get Married Because I’m Getting Too Old & Time Is Running Out

I Need To Feel Like Someone Loves Me

I’m Afraid I Will Wind Up Alone And Lonely

This is rooted in earlier negative memories of abandonment and/or rejection that have left you feeling vulnerable and fearful of being on your own. This makes you dependent and weak and will put a severe strain on your partner and your marriage. You may wish to address this first.

I Need Some One Else In My Life To Make Me Feel Complete

This is rooted in the belief that you are defective, deficient and that there is something missing within you that needs to be completed by some one else. In other words you do not feel like a whole, complete, self sufficient, independent, confident and strong person. This will make you unattractive, feel incapable, unprepared, weak and needy all of which will put a strain on your relationships. You may wish to address this first.

I Need Some One Who Will Support, Encourage And Motivate Me

There is now a new coaching process that can help you erase all subconscious negative programming in the form of negative beliefs, feelings and memories and help restore you to your strong, confident, empowered, self sufficient, capable, while self.

To learn more about this kindly visit the web site below where you can also request a free e-copy of my new book and request a free 1 hour telephone/Skype consultation that will make you whole, self sufficient and attractive again.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Want To Stop Rebounding From One Bad Relationship To Another?

Do you know that many individuals who are coming out of an unhealthy relationship situation often find themselves quickly re-entering similar negative and often abusive relationships? Do you know that this pattern is largely driven by feelings of rejection, abandonment, low self worth, low self …

postheadericon 10 Men’s Fashion Tips Women Wished You Knew

Style is so important. It’s the first signal that women pick up from you before you even get to say anything. It’s a signal telling her if you “get it”. If you’re with the modern times. If you’re going to make her look bad if she hangs around you. All sorts of things! Women …

postheadericon Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood?

When ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because there are no real difficulties and one is experiencing a natural flow.

To be experiencing challenges in this area of one’s life could make one look deeper and seek solutions. And yet it could also make one turn the other way so to speak. Here, they are not going face what is not working head on, what they could do is pretend that everything is fine or that it’s not their responsibility.

Another option would be for one to feel like a victim and that they are powerless to change what is taking place in their relationships; with this outlook playing a big part in one not taking accountability for the challenges that they are facing.

In this case, one would have a certain level of awareness and not see that there are other possibilities available. Their mind is therefore blocking them and needs to be changed in order for change to occur.

Information

One way will be for one to allow themselves to embrace new information and ideas. This might involve listening to what their friends have to say or just taking some time to reflect on their relationships.

Or one could go even further and read about them, as well as taking courses or having some kind of coaching. In this day and age, there is no limit when it comes to the help available and one no longer has to struggle by themselves.

Here And Now

For some people, the focus of change is on what is taking place in their current relationship/s. This is what one will want to handle and the same outlook could apply if they were to work with a coach or to read about relationships.

So what one is doing and what other people are doing is what will be looked at. There will be no mentioned of what took place in ones childhood and how this might still be affecting them to this day. This could be seen as irrelevant and something that would be nothing more than a waste of time

The link

And for some people, this might be enough and progress will be made, without digging any deeper to see if there are any patterns that link the past to the present. However, the need to dig deeper is something that might arise from within someone or come about through another’s suggestion.

The main elements here will be awareness and this will play a big part in whether one will see how their present relationships challenges can be a reflection of what happened in their childhood.

The Mind

When something is painful, the mind can cause one to block. This could be through repression, denial and even full blown amnesia. And in the case of one’s childhood, what took place all those years ago could be nothing more than a mystery.

This is going to relate to what caused pain and conflict. If this pain was acknowledged and validated, one would have no need to still carry it within them.

But as this pain stayed within them, it has meant that it is still appearing in ones dult life. And while the mind can’t remember, the body doesn’t forget and is only too happy to reveal all if one were to listen.

Common Challenges

So due to one being cut off from their early experiences, what is happening to them in their adult relationships could be seen as having no connection to their childhood. And in some cases it won’t and yet there is also a chance that there will be a connection.

Examples

And on more occasions than they can remember, they might find that other people are too needy or clingy or that they are never fully available to have a relationship with them. One might question if they are truly lovable and deserve to be with another.

Childhood

One could find that they have experienced one of the examples above or all of them and this might have happened once or a regular basis. And the first time they felt like this could have been around their mother or father or the other people who were around when they were younger.

And this can go right back to when one was a baby and that is not going to be the easiest thing to remember.

Consequences

And the beliefs that were formed would be about who one is, what they deserve and what other people are like and what the world is like for instance.

Awareness

These then come together to define what ones relationships will and won’t be like. And while who one attracts and is attracted to and the kind of relationships they have with others are just a reflection of these two elements, it can appear to be the truth.

So how one felt all those years ago could have become trapped in their body and these will need to be released. This can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer

And the beliefs that one formed as a result of what happened will need to be changed. This can be done through one increasing their self awareness and this can happen by reading and questioning what one believes.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon How To Build Self Esteem and Self Worth Fast And Make Your Self Marriage Ready

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Similarly, individuals with low self worth consider themselves “unworthy” of a successful, happy and satisfying relationship and hence either avoid healthy partners or tend to self sabotage themselves whenever they find themselves experiencing a measure of relationship success. Self sabotage ironically helps to relieve the internal tension that such individuals feel when they have something they don’t feel they deserve to have. Of course this means they can “never” have what they desire in their Hearts i.e. a happy and healthy relationship.

Unfortunately many of the individuals who deal with these impediments never find a way out of their emotional prisons. This is because, in order to do so, it is imperative that the negative memories supporting their low self esteem and self worth “must” be completely erased. Up until recently this was considered an impossibility.

Within the last decade a new coaching process emerged that revealed how negative memories are anchored within the subconscious mind by false negative beliefs we hold about how they supposedly serve us. By following these beliefs to their logical conclusion two important and remarkable things happen a) the beliefs themselves get totally debunked and b) this causes the memories they anchor to be progressively and ultimately completely erased.

Does this sound too hard to believe?

For many, it does indeed.

That is why only a personal experience of this is necessary to see for one’s self that not only is this possible but that it is what is necessary to restore any individual to their self loving, worthy, self respecting, self confident, whole, self assured, self actualized, self trusting, authentic, empowered, and attractive self, to name a few.

So if this has peaked your interest and you would like to take your life and your relationships in a new and healthy direction kindly visit the web site below where you can request a free introductory consultation to get you started.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is now an International Expert Life, Relationship & Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation and a Free E-copy of my new book are available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon How to Achieve a Healthy Authentic Relationship

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What is an “Authentic Relationship”?

Well simply it is one in which both partners are “authentically themselves”!

Does such a species exist on this planet yet? I would like to think so however I would like to expound on how there can be many more.

Let me start by addressing the garden variety relationship which in many cases is fraught with what are termed co-dependency issues on both sides. These are what I consider “inauthentic relationships” because each individual is choosing to behave as if they are lacking something which they hope their partner will supply for them to make them feel whole.

So what is meant by feeling “whole”?

So few ever contemplate this question thereby making it feel like such an ethereal matter. There is however a very specific meaning to the feeling of wholeness that few individuals ever get to experience.

The feeling of wholeness is experienced when one has their Life Force Energy “fully” installed within their mind and body. So what does that mean?

Now I know this will sound, perhaps absurd to you but please bear with me for a moment.

If you focus on some negative memory stored inside you that you consider is part of your so-called life history, you’ll notice that that memory causes a definite drain on your Life Force Energy. In other words it’s killing you.

So what chance does your relationship stand of ever being authentic if you aren’t? Well very little.

The only way to achieve an authentic relationship is for you to be fully installed in your body.

The only way to accomplish that is to release your identifications and attachments to those negative memories stored inside you which are depleting your Life Force Energy from your body.

To learn more about how to have Healthy Authentic Relationships visit the links below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon For Men Who Want To Develop Supreme Self Confidence In Approaching Attractive Women

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So why is it that a beautiful woman turns even the seemingly most macho man into rubber? Well it has everything to do with the repertoire of unconscious needs most men carry within them without realizing it.

These consist of things such as:

1. The need to be accepted.
2. The need to be perceived as attractive.
3. The need to be liked.
4. The need to appear smart, confident, cool, and together.
5. The need to be validated.
6. The need to have an attractive sexual partner.
7. The need for a sexual experience.

And so on.

Let’s look at the “need to be liked” as an example.

Most people think this need helps them show their best self, so that they can appear attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

In other words if we were to summarize it might be said that: The need to be liked makes one feel attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

So how attractive is that? Not at all!

Yet, if all men harbor these needs where is the solution to this problem to be found?

Well, it turns out that now one can permanently delete these needs from within and evolve into a supremely self confident, self assured, self sufficient, emotionally independent, and attractive male rather easily and quickly.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)