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postheadericon Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood?

When ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because there are no real difficulties and one is experiencing a natural flow.

To be experiencing challenges in this area of one’s life could make one look deeper and seek solutions. And yet it could also make one turn the other way so to speak. Here, they are not going face what is not working head on, what they could do is pretend that everything is fine or that it’s not their responsibility.

Another option would be for one to feel like a victim and that they are powerless to change what is taking place in their relationships; with this outlook playing a big part in one not taking accountability for the challenges that they are facing.

In this case, one would have a certain level of awareness and not see that there are other possibilities available. Their mind is therefore blocking them and needs to be changed in order for change to occur.

Information

One way will be for one to allow themselves to embrace new information and ideas. This might involve listening to what their friends have to say or just taking some time to reflect on their relationships.

Or one could go even further and read about them, as well as taking courses or having some kind of coaching. In this day and age, there is no limit when it comes to the help available and one no longer has to struggle by themselves.

Here And Now

For some people, the focus of change is on what is taking place in their current relationship/s. This is what one will want to handle and the same outlook could apply if they were to work with a coach or to read about relationships.

So what one is doing and what other people are doing is what will be looked at. There will be no mentioned of what took place in ones childhood and how this might still be affecting them to this day. This could be seen as irrelevant and something that would be nothing more than a waste of time

The link

And for some people, this might be enough and progress will be made, without digging any deeper to see if there are any patterns that link the past to the present. However, the need to dig deeper is something that might arise from within someone or come about through another’s suggestion.

The main elements here will be awareness and this will play a big part in whether one will see how their present relationships challenges can be a reflection of what happened in their childhood.

The Mind

When something is painful, the mind can cause one to block. This could be through repression, denial and even full blown amnesia. And in the case of one’s childhood, what took place all those years ago could be nothing more than a mystery.

This is going to relate to what caused pain and conflict. If this pain was acknowledged and validated, one would have no need to still carry it within them.

But as this pain stayed within them, it has meant that it is still appearing in ones dult life. And while the mind can’t remember, the body doesn’t forget and is only too happy to reveal all if one were to listen.

Common Challenges

So due to one being cut off from their early experiences, what is happening to them in their adult relationships could be seen as having no connection to their childhood. And in some cases it won’t and yet there is also a chance that there will be a connection.

Examples

And on more occasions than they can remember, they might find that other people are too needy or clingy or that they are never fully available to have a relationship with them. One might question if they are truly lovable and deserve to be with another.

Childhood

One could find that they have experienced one of the examples above or all of them and this might have happened once or a regular basis. And the first time they felt like this could have been around their mother or father or the other people who were around when they were younger.

And this can go right back to when one was a baby and that is not going to be the easiest thing to remember.

Consequences

And the beliefs that were formed would be about who one is, what they deserve and what other people are like and what the world is like for instance.

Awareness

These then come together to define what ones relationships will and won’t be like. And while who one attracts and is attracted to and the kind of relationships they have with others are just a reflection of these two elements, it can appear to be the truth.

So how one felt all those years ago could have become trapped in their body and these will need to be released. This can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer

And the beliefs that one formed as a result of what happened will need to be changed. This can be done through one increasing their self awareness and this can happen by reading and questioning what one believes.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon How To Build Self Esteem and Self Worth Fast And Make Your Self Marriage Ready

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Similarly, individuals with low self worth consider themselves “unworthy” of a successful, happy and satisfying relationship and hence either avoid healthy partners or tend to self sabotage themselves whenever they find themselves experiencing a measure of relationship success. Self sabotage ironically helps to relieve the internal tension that such individuals feel when they have something they don’t feel they deserve to have. Of course this means they can “never” have what they desire in their Hearts i.e. a happy and healthy relationship.

Unfortunately many of the individuals who deal with these impediments never find a way out of their emotional prisons. This is because, in order to do so, it is imperative that the negative memories supporting their low self esteem and self worth “must” be completely erased. Up until recently this was considered an impossibility.

Within the last decade a new coaching process emerged that revealed how negative memories are anchored within the subconscious mind by false negative beliefs we hold about how they supposedly serve us. By following these beliefs to their logical conclusion two important and remarkable things happen a) the beliefs themselves get totally debunked and b) this causes the memories they anchor to be progressively and ultimately completely erased.

Does this sound too hard to believe?

For many, it does indeed.

That is why only a personal experience of this is necessary to see for one’s self that not only is this possible but that it is what is necessary to restore any individual to their self loving, worthy, self respecting, self confident, whole, self assured, self actualized, self trusting, authentic, empowered, and attractive self, to name a few.

So if this has peaked your interest and you would like to take your life and your relationships in a new and healthy direction kindly visit the web site below where you can request a free introductory consultation to get you started.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is now an International Expert Life, Relationship & Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation and a Free E-copy of my new book are available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon How to Achieve a Healthy Authentic Relationship

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What is an “Authentic Relationship”?

Well simply it is one in which both partners are “authentically themselves”!

Does such a species exist on this planet yet? I would like to think so however I would like to expound on how there can be many more.

Let me start by addressing the garden variety relationship which in many cases is fraught with what are termed co-dependency issues on both sides. These are what I consider “inauthentic relationships” because each individual is choosing to behave as if they are lacking something which they hope their partner will supply for them to make them feel whole.

So what is meant by feeling “whole”?

So few ever contemplate this question thereby making it feel like such an ethereal matter. There is however a very specific meaning to the feeling of wholeness that few individuals ever get to experience.

The feeling of wholeness is experienced when one has their Life Force Energy “fully” installed within their mind and body. So what does that mean?

Now I know this will sound, perhaps absurd to you but please bear with me for a moment.

If you focus on some negative memory stored inside you that you consider is part of your so-called life history, you’ll notice that that memory causes a definite drain on your Life Force Energy. In other words it’s killing you.

So what chance does your relationship stand of ever being authentic if you aren’t? Well very little.

The only way to achieve an authentic relationship is for you to be fully installed in your body.

The only way to accomplish that is to release your identifications and attachments to those negative memories stored inside you which are depleting your Life Force Energy from your body.

To learn more about how to have Healthy Authentic Relationships visit the links below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon For Men Who Want To Develop Supreme Self Confidence In Approaching Attractive Women

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So why is it that a beautiful woman turns even the seemingly most macho man into rubber? Well it has everything to do with the repertoire of unconscious needs most men carry within them without realizing it.

These consist of things such as:

1. The need to be accepted.
2. The need to be perceived as attractive.
3. The need to be liked.
4. The need to appear smart, confident, cool, and together.
5. The need to be validated.
6. The need to have an attractive sexual partner.
7. The need for a sexual experience.

And so on.

Let’s look at the “need to be liked” as an example.

Most people think this need helps them show their best self, so that they can appear attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

In other words if we were to summarize it might be said that: The need to be liked makes one feel attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likable.

So how attractive is that? Not at all!

Yet, if all men harbor these needs where is the solution to this problem to be found?

Well, it turns out that now one can permanently delete these needs from within and evolve into a supremely self confident, self assured, self sufficient, emotionally independent, and attractive male rather easily and quickly.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon The Effective Way To End Co-Dependence And Have Successful Relationships

Many seek out relationships, not out of love as they convince themselves they are doing, but to fulfill (or fill) their needy state through others. As I’m sure you can see this makes one feel dependent, weak and vulnerable. Many attempt to compensate for these feelings by attempting to dominate and control their partner so as to feel safe, secure, strong, and seemingly independent.

A new coaching process developed a decade ago has shown that:

1. Feelings of neediness are rooted in early negative memories stored in the subconscious mind/body that parasitically drain and deplete ones’ Life Force Energy.

2. The depletion of Life Force Energy leaves one feeling incomplete, empty, defective, flawed, needy, dependent, insecure, childlike, incapable, and inadequate and so on.

3. Most individuals try to compensate for the needy state created by this Life Force Energy depletion by attempting to get their deficiencies met by others around them and that this is akin to attempting to get the other to “re-parent” them so as to make them feel whole, mature, capable and independent.

4. The negative memories can be completely and permanently erased from the mind/body and that this spontaneously triggers an amazing process whereby one’s Life Force Energy returns progressively and cumulatively back into their mind/body leaving them feeling whole, complete, capable and independent.

So what will relationships look like without such neediness? Well that is up to you to decide if you are inclined to make this choice.

If you are and you would like to experience this remarkable process that can begin to change your life on many fronts kindly visit the web site below where you can request a free e-copy of my book and/or request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will help you move into your whole and empowered self.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon ***Should I Try To Save My Marriage?

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As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean.

For 15 years, the husband had “mentally abused” his wife. He discounted her every word. He made her feel insignificant by his words, his deeds, and by his actions. And even though his wife was pursuing a doctoral degree at one of America’s most prestigious universities, he treated her like she was some kind of dumb cluck – someone capable of nothing significant, lasting, or meaningful.

The truth is, the mental anguish she suffered over the years had taken its toll – on her, her three children, and on her marital relationship. She asked us the most profound question of all – “How can I continue to live with a man that makes me feel so worthless, so insignificant, and so meaningless. How can I continue to live with a man that respects me so little?”

Sometimes, you simply must move on with your life before it is too late. For the couple we interviewed, her time had come. The action she must take was clear. The action she must take to save her soul and the souls of her three children became clear to her – if she had any hope at all for her life and her children’s life, the time to move on was now!

The simple truth is, some marriages and relationships should not and cannot be saved. As harsh and evident as this truth is, it cannot be avoided in the case of some marriages and relationships. And in the end, when you have exhausted the solutions available to you, you simply must cut the tithes that bind.

For over 30 years, we have interviewed couples around the world and across cultures and all seven continents. Most of the time we have concluded that most marriages and relationships can and should be saved – but not all! When you can look in the mirror and honestly and truthfully say that you did your best to save your relationship with another human being, but to no avail, then ending it is the right thing to do. Life is too short to waste it in torment, in abuse, and in lost love.

Save yourself.

By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz

postheadericon The Main Reason Why Many Men Have Trouble Expressing Feelings – A Common Misconception Women Have

In my conversations with many women and men there appears to be a major misconception among the former as to why the latter are unable to express their feelings when involved in a relationship.

It has come to my attention that many women believe that men are aware of what they feel but simply don’t feel comfortable expressing their feelings because to do so would be unmanly.

Of course this belief would lead a woman to conclude that the man is purposely with holding something that she would like him to express and hence could in some circumstances become grounds for mistrust.

In my experience this belief is a major misconception which unfortunately has ruined many a relationship.

The truth is closer to this:

Many men are actually unaware of what they are feeling because they have not developed a comprehensive emotional vocabulary. Men are less socialized to be aware of their emotions and hence their emotional attunement is not as developed as in women. In other words men are actually handicapped in this area of their experience. So it’s like asking someone to speak to you in Greek when all they understand is English. To assume that they know Greek in such a situation, when they actually don’t of course leads one to assume that they might be with holding, when actually they ‘re not.

Hence when men find themselves in a relationship and are being confronted with having to share their feelings they often feel handicapped, inadequate, incompetent and so on. Interestingly they don’t even know why they feel this way because they haven’t developed the tools to understand what they’re feeling.

So it’s like being in the dark and not knowing why or how to get out of it. So when pressed by their partner to share their experiences many may panic, shut down or find some other creative way to avoid the conversation.

It is necessary for both men and women to understand this issue because this problem, in my view, is one of the most significant reasons why many relationships wind up on the rocks. What’s the solution?

Well first women need to understand that their partners may be having this problem and perhaps be more supportive and patient.

One powerful way to kick start one’s emotional attunement and develop their emotional vocabulary is through a process I developed called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) which you can experience freely by contacting me at the email address below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

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